Condolence & Memory Journal

Hi, Mary. I've been thinking of you with Ian's one year anniversary. Just today got a picture from my sister of Josh and Ian. They had a lot of fun playing together! Praying for you, John and your family!

Posted by Sharon (Chandler) Chapman - Largo, FL - Neighbor   March 13, 2021

My sweet, sweet Ian. Love of my life.

I am writing this on what should have been your 34th birthday. Life with you was such a joy and being your mom has been the greatest part of my life. You were the kindest, most loving son that anyone could ever ask for. I miss how funny and fun you were to be with and how wise beyond your years you were. You bravely faced your life with a strength that I have never known. Although my life will never be the same,I know that I am the luckiest person in the world , because I am and always will be Ian's mom. I know that you have always known this, but I'm going to say it anyway. You are my favorite thing in life, my favorite human. I love you with all of my heart.


P.S. You know the first draft was many pages. A short story if you will. I heard your voice in my head saying Mom, too much All right my son. It's your Birthday.

Posted by Mary Lahikainen - Clinton Township, MI - Mother   August 12, 2020

Mary, I am so sorry to see this! I'll forever remember Ian as the little boy Josh used to play with at your mom's house. I, too, lost a son, but he passed at birth, soi do understand your pain a bit. My heart aches for you and Jon and all who loved your son.

Posted by Sharon Chapman - Laego, FL - Neighbor   May 16, 2020


Dear Mary and John, We are so very sorry, our hearts are so sad. Ian was such a loving, kind, wonderful person. You showed him his whole life how much you loved him, that's why he was the same as the both of you. He will always be with, your angel forever. Now he's in heaven where there is no pain, no suffering, all glory. We love you very much and always will be there for you. We are praying for peace and strength for you. Our Utmost Deepest Sympathy.

Posted by Mike & Lisa - Macomb Twp., MI - Friend   March 07, 2020

Dear Mrs. Mary and Mr. John, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I have such great memories growing up with Ian - playing flashlight tag, sitting on Nick's shed hiding from skunks, and hanging out in Nick's basement listening to the radio. Ian was a great friend and he will be missed by many people. I'm praying for you both and sending my love.

Posted by Melissa (LaLonde) Sreckovic - Oakland Charter Township, MI - Friend   March 05, 2020

John, Mary and family, Heather and I are sadden by the loss of Ian. I feel Ian will always watch over his loving parents and extended family. If you need anything , we are here for you.

Posted by Sue Runde - Clinton Twp., MI - Neighbor   March 05, 2020

Mary and John: We are so sorry to hear of Ian's passing. We have followed Ian's life through his Aunt Margaret since he was a very young child, and know just how adored he was by his family. May you find peace in your memories of such an extraordinary young man. Jeff Green & Brad Graber

Posted by JEFFREY GREEN - PHOENIX, AZ - Family Friend   March 05, 2020

I'm so very sorry for your loss, please know that my heart is with you both. I will always hold close the memories of our boys growing up together. Much love and peace during this difficult time.

Posted by Terry Ornsten - Clinton Township, MI - Neighbor   March 04, 2020

Margaret my heart goes out to you and your family. May your hearts and souls find peace and comfort.

Posted by Diane Keller - Rochester Hills, MI - Coworker   March 04, 2020

I'm so sorry. Continued prayers for the entire family as you mourn the loss of someone you loved dearly.

Posted by Lisa Sage - Rochester Hills, MI   March 04, 2020

Mary and John I'm so sorry for your loss Ian was an awesome person and my best friend for all of middle school and high school I'll never forget all the wrestling matches we went to and sleep overs we used to have he will truly be missed

Posted by Matthew Luchtman - Clinton twp., MI - Friend   March 03, 2020

No words can describe how sorry I am for your loss. Wishing you strength for today and hope for tomorrow. May the love of family and friends comfort you during these difficult days. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Posted by Lisa Cummins - Lake orion, MI - Family Friend   March 03, 2020

Mary and John, We wish you peace, comfort and healing in the love that surrounds you, in treasured memories, and in the countless prayers that have been said for you. Thank you for sharing Ian with us. He was a wonderful gift to all of us. Sending you our love and sympathies.

Posted by Nancy and Mark Senatore - Shelby Township, MI - Neighbor   March 03, 2020

I am so very sorry for your loss. May peace and light find you and your family during this time of sorrow. You are in my thoughts and in my heart.

Posted by Sarah Olson - Rochester, MI   March 03, 2020

Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to hold in your heart. Lean in to those memories and to your friends and family for strength.

Posted by Tara Bleck - Romeo, MI - Friend   March 03, 2020


I love you!

Posted by Marge    March 03, 2020

Mary and John,

I am so sorry for your loss of Ian. While I didn't have the pleasure of meeting him personally, I knew of him through Margaret and her love of him. He was truly a special man and a light to all in his life. Wishing you peace and love. Hugs.

Rochelle Lyon

Posted by Rochelle Lyon    March 02, 2020

Margaret my heart goes out to you and your family. Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Diane Keller - Rochester Hills, MI - Coworker   March 01, 2020


John & Mary,
We are so so sorry to hear of Ian's passing. Our hearts are completely broken for you, and we are here for you at anytime, anyday, everyday. Please try to remember, Ian is no longer suffering and is now at peace. He is in heaven, and will always be your angel, and always will be with you. You raised a wonderful boy, very kind, very sweet who loves you just as much as you love him, that love is never ending. He will always be with you, now healthy and no more suffering. You both have taught him how to be so loving, you were the best parents, always there for him in good and bad. His life was wonderful because of the the two of you. He was very blessed to have you just as much as you were blessed to have him. You both are so kind, wonderful, and loving, that is why we love you so much. I am sure he would want you to continue to show your love through all of the care and love you give your pets. He is now peaceful caring for Phoebe, Lucy and all of your other pets. Heaven is all glory, and that is where he is watching over you forever. We are praying for strength and peace for you and your family. We Love you dearly and always will be here for you. Our utmost deepest sympathy.
Mike & Lisa

Posted by Mike & Lisa LaLonde - Macomb Township, MI - Friend   March 01, 2020

I am so sorry for your loss. Continued prayers for the family at this sad time.

Posted by Lisa Sage - Rochester Hills, MI - Acquaintance   March 01, 2020

Mary and John,

I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't have the pleasure to meet Ian but I feel like I knew a little bit of him through Margaret. He was a kind soul and had a huge heart. I wish you peace and love as you go through this most difficult time. Hugs

Posted by Rochelle Lyon - Family Friend   March 01, 2020